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[Shoganai]

Dad you were right about me all along. i am sorry for hurting you. please forgive me. i just wanted a dad i could count on. i still love you but your wife christina does not want me to have contact with you but i will not give up trying to call you.


i will find you no matter what i promise have faith daddy do not give up on me because i love you with all my heart your son in time Johnathan.


Dad i want to hear your voice again please call me. i need you dad please come to my birthday i am counting on you.


i will be down there on august 26th and stay until november. please come on October 8th i want to celebrate my birthday with you it is important to me and it is only fair because you are my dad.


i would like to go to dinner or go to the mall. Please come for my birthday love Johnathan.


Dad that night you talked in the hall to christina i heard what she said about me when she said if i catch your son touch my girls i will call the police. it hurt me i knew she would do it that is why i left so i won’t go to jail.


she will act on her threat. i am sorry i left it was best that way. i did not mean to hurt you i feel terrible for what i did to you. please forgive me i love you so much dad with all of my heart your son in time Johnathan.

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Typed as written by my 24 year old Autistic son tonight.


I have always allowed Johnathan to call his father at will but his father keeps changing his number and not telling me or John. Lately after finding his newest number Johnathan was able to get through ONCE then all he gets now is “You call has been successfully delivered buy the party your called is not accepting calls at this time”


In other words, Johnathan is on call block.


Christina told me she believed Autism was contagious and she didn’t want Johnathan to infect her children.


The night she threatened to call the police, Johnathan ran away into the streets of Columbia SC and was not found for over 24 hours after the Amber Alert was issued. And me 500 miles away and closing as I drove there.


I want to tell Johnathan his father doesn’t want to have anything to do with him but I have to allow him to come to that himself. And even if I did tell him, Johnathan would not believe me.


It is very difficult for some Autistic people truly love and become bonded with others. It breaking my heart watching his heart being broken slowly. I’ve been gently frank with him about how I feel but have not told him how he should feel.


He wrote this but is afraid it will intercepted by Christina.


I told him we would go to the post office in the morning and mail it ‘return receipt requested’.


I wish his father has a spine and would just tell Johnathan to go the hell and be done with.


I don’t know what else to but hold his hand as he walks on emotional broken glass.
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1993 K1100RS aka The Shop Whore
1994 K1100RS aka Blue Streak

The long road is a rainbow and the pot of gold lies there.
So slip the chain and I'm off again,
You'll find me everywhere. I'm a Rover. - JT


Nana korobi ya oki

[SugarHillCTD]

Gwen,

I am truly unable to assemble any useful response to an awful situ.

All I can do is have positive hopes for both your son and you.................Thank God he has you.

John

[drikko]

Had trouble trying to get a handle on this, but what the hell, I've had a few beers so may as well spew it all out. I have to leave the Autistic bit out as I have no experience of that but what I do know is when I got separated about 12 years ago, there was NO way I would allow my kids to be brought up without me being there. Don't get me wrong, I knew the ex was a great mum and still is, but I just had to be around.

My mates used to gang up on me and give me crap about having the kids around all the time which is what I wanted. Funny thing is those same 'Mates" are now saying things like "wow, how come your kids really love you (sorry not bragging) and are staying at your place all the time" Ummm.... because I have never lost touch with them dumbarse......

Fathers that walk away from their kids, handicapped or not are stupid wankers...

Fortunately, my ex-wife and I have got on really well which makes it all possible. I don't agree with her about a lot of things except whats good for the kiddies.

But I am very guilty of tearing a new butt into my mates that walk away from their kids. And I will never apologise for that....ever.

So Shogs. hopefully he will see how stupid he is and turn around, it's never too late. Always keep the door open.

edit: cleaned it up with a soberish eye, same sentiment though
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K1100RS '97
Laverda RGS 1000 '84
Jim Young Trailer Sailer 5.7M WB

DISCLAIMER:- Anything I say may have been when I was drunk so please don't take it personally.

'Bigamy is having one wife/husband too many. Monogamy is the same.'
Oscar Wilde

[Ted]

It breaks my heart to see things like this. As I've grown older I have slowly but deliberately come to realize the secret to life is simpler than most would have you believe: in spite of the scars you collect and pain you suffer on the journey it is never losing the sense of wonder - wonder at the beauty of a sunrise, the complexity of a spider web, the kindness of strangers, the comfort of loved ones.

He may not have his Dad right now, and indeed it may take some time before his Dad comes to realize the damage he has wrought - but he has You Gwen, and that is everything.
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Ted
KOG#1

[Mystic Red]

It's amazing when you run across small minded people but when your ex marries one and your son is affected it's almost criminal. I'm sorry Gwen.
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Scott Hespelt, '94 K11LT
K11 OG #466

[carp]

I think you should tell him that you think his father doesn't want to have contact with him. Reaffirm that you love him and that you won't leave him. I wouldn't count on your ex being honest. This won't "solve" anything, but hopefully he will give up hoping for his dad to contact him. Sorry your ex is being heartless about this.
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93 K1100LT
07 Bandit 1250S

[Al.]

It is heartbreaking to read.
Can he not mail his father to his workplace marked personal/private.

Sometimes partners can be pressurised by the other to do things they don't really want to do, possibly by blackmail of some sort.

Does he have friends there you know, that you can talk to, to find out the real situation.

Kids I knew used to say - 'life's a bitch then you marry one'
Not true for all cases obviously.

[abreeze]

When I had my first child, someone told me that "we dont choose the children we have, the child chooses us to be the parents.".

Whatever it is supposed to mean, I think it means the child that has been given to us by God, has chosen us for our strenght and courage to guide them through life.

Some people just dont get it, like Johnathan's father. Someday he might get past his own ego and realize its about Johnathan.

Gwen, those of us who know you can say, you are such a strong and thoughtfull person. Nothing shows this more than your positive actions and your ability to think of what is best for Johnathan.

Ted said,

[drikko]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH46SmVv8SU&feature=fvst
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K1100RS '97
Laverda RGS 1000 '84
Jim Young Trailer Sailer 5.7M WB

DISCLAIMER:- Anything I say may have been when I was drunk so please don't take it personally.

'Bigamy is having one wife/husband too many. Monogamy is the same.'
Oscar Wilde

[Off the grid]

I read this on ADV, and my emotions range from murderous rage to soul-crushing sadness.

The act of concieving a child is simple.

Being a father or mother to that child is not.

Space Cowboy is lucky to have a mother in you and a father in Steve. Believe it or not that balances out the bad. No, it stomps the bad.
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2007 Triumph Tiger ABS. "Sabertooth"
2009 Husqvarna TE610. "The dirty Italian mistress"